How to Have a Calm and Quiet Soul (from Somebody Who Struggles with It)

Stop. Be still. Rest. That’s from the Bible. Jesus said, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). But the fact is that you can’t rest unless you have a calm and quiet soul first. I don’t. I’m not a model of Psalm 131. And actually that’s a good thing. Never take advice from anybody about a difficult matter unless he or ...

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Friendship Must Be Free

Female relationships can be tricky, even among Christians. They can be one of the most encouraging and enjoyable treasures on earth—if only we could stop trying to control them. We desire transparency. But that desire is stifled by worry about other people’s opinions. We fear we might offend someone, become offended, or say something that will be misconstrued. Questions race through our minds. Do I appear godly? Have I said ...

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How to Be a Good and Faithful Servant

Everybody has a secret. If you were required to reveal your secret to others, you would be so ashamed and mortified that you’d want to leave or crawl down into a hole to hide. Because of our secrets, most Christians believe that God is angry with us. God has called me to tell Christians the truth that, because of justification and imputation, God isn’t angry with them...and never will be.

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How to Lose Friends & Irritate People

As you know, I’m writing a new book with the working title How to Speak Truth to People Who Don’t Want to Hear (or How to Be Right Without Being Insufferable). Yesterday I junked a chapter I had almost finished. I actually thought about keeping the chapter (and might even put it back) because the title is so good, “How to Lose Friends and Irritate People.”

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